Dear Mama Who Feels Like She’s In Over Her Head,
Hi. It’s Patricia here, and I’m writing you this letter to let you know that you are not alone! You’re probably thinking it doesn’t take an entire letter to express that, but I’m doing this anyways because I know how much I need the encouragement these days!
Just when I started to feel more confident about finding my new rhythm with both the girls, the ‘yes I can’ attitude was quickly shoved aside for the ‘ I’m trying really hard not to lose my mind’ reality. In the last few days I’ve been especially tired, frustrated and weary, and even with a 6 week old, it’s largely been thanks to my wonderfully precocious toddler. Oh how she pushes my buttons like no one else can!
Does she EVER listen…the first time?
Does she ever get tired of saying ‘NO’?
You can’t tell me she doesn’t hear herself when she whines. Doesn’t she hear herself?!
Can we go one day without (one of us) having a meltdown? Just one?
Why do I feel like I’m in a constant power struggle with a 2 and a half year old? I mean, she’s not even 3 feet tall!!
Every day I pray for more patience, and boy am I getting opportunity after opportunity to exercise the very thing I’m praying for! Amid tantrums, tears, screams, attitude, potty accidents, and sleepless nights, I know this is a time of transition for us all. However, I can’t help but question myself
, wondering if I’m going about things all wrong.
I mean, should it be this hard? I have 2 children, not a dozen! Am I the only one struggling? The issue must be me…right?! Am I totally missing the mark?
Ever had these thoughts in the midst of your frustration? It’s amazing how the negative self-talk can spin out of control sometimes, but in the process I usually end up contemplating some very real things. To name a few, I struggle with finding the balance between letting go and establishing boundaries, checking my expectations against the awareness of the season we’re in, and trying not to be so hard on myself, hoping that I won’t let my precious princesses down.
It’s in these moments of doubt and uncertainty that I feel like I’m in over my head. It’s in these moments that I MUST be deliberate about staying connected to the Lord. It’s in these moments that I think I’m the only one, until a text or phone call or even Facebook status reminds me that we mamas are in this together!
I know I’m still at the beginning of this motherhood journey, but I’m positive that we ALL need a lift sometime. So whether you’re juggling one rambunctious little tot, a terrific two and a newborn, or a handful of school age children and a teen or two, here’s a reminder from me to you:
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. Phillipians 4:8 (NKJV)
My dear, overwhelmed, frazzled, at your wits end mommy, you will get through this!!! Whatever stage you’re in won’t last forever, and it’s not worth allowing stress, comparisons or internal pressure to keep you from focusing on the beautiful and special moments you’re experiencing right now. Take a deep breath and allow the tough times to be a part of your short-term memory (note to self). Cry if you have to, laugh when you can, and hug your little (or big) one immediately, even
if they just got under your maternal skin as you were reading this. ;) Never forget this (and please feel free to remind me when I’m going off the deep end) – Your best IS good enough!!