Dear Mama Who Feels Like She’s In Over Her Head

Dear Mama Who Feels Like She’s In Over Her Head,

Hi.  It’s Patricia here, and I’m writing you this letter to let you know that you are not alone!  You’re probably thinking it doesn’t take an entire letter to express that, but I’m doing this anyways because I know how much I need the encouragement these days!

Just when I started to feel more confident about finding my new rhythm with both the girls, the ‘yes I can’ attitude was quickly shoved aside for the ‘ I’m trying really hard not to lose my mind’ reality.  In the last few days I’ve been especially tired, frustrated and weary, and even with a 6 week old, it’s largely been thanks to my wonderfully precocious toddler.  Oh how she pushes my buttons like no one else can! 

Does she EVER listen…the first time?

Does she ever get tired of saying ‘NO’?

You can’t tell me she doesn’t hear herself when she whines.  Doesn’t she hear herself?!

Can we go one day without (one of us) having a meltdown?  Just one?

Why do I feel like I’m in a constant power struggle with a 2 and a half year old?  I mean, she’s not even 3 feet tall!!

Every day I pray for more patience, and boy am I getting opportunity after opportunity to exercise the very thing I’m praying for!  Amid tantrums, tears, screams, attitude, potty accidents, and sleepless nights, I know this is a time of transition for us all. However, I can’t help but question myself, wondering if I’m going about things all wrong. 

I mean, should it be this hard? I have 2 children, not a dozen!  Am I the only one struggling? The issue must be meright?!  Am I totally missing the mark?

Ever had these thoughts in the midst of your frustration?  It’s amazing how the negative self-talk can spin out of control sometimes, but in the process I usually end up contemplating some very real things.  To name a few, I struggle with finding the balance between letting go and establishing boundaries, checking my expectations against the awareness of the season we’re in, and trying not to be so hard on myself, hoping that I won’t let my precious princesses down.

It’s in these moments of doubt and uncertainty that I feel like I’m in over my head.  It’s in these moments that I MUST be deliberate about staying connected to the Lord.  It’s in these moments that I think I’m the only one, until a text or phone call or even Facebook status reminds me that we mamas are in this together!

I know I’m still at the beginning of this motherhood journey, but I’m positive that we ALL need a lift sometime.  So whether you’re juggling one rambunctious little tot, a terrific two and a newborn, or a handful of school age children and a teen or two, here’s a reminder from me to you:

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.  Phillipians 4:8 (NKJV)

My dear, overwhelmed, frazzled, at your wits end mommy, you will get through this!!!  Whatever stage you’re in won’t last forever, and  it’s not worth allowing stress, comparisons or internal pressure to keep you from focusing on the beautiful and special moments you’re experiencing right now.  Take a deep breath and allow the tough times to be a part of your short-term memory (note to self).  Cry if you have to, laugh when you can, and hug your little (or big) one immediately, even if  they just got under your maternal skin as you were reading this. ;) Never forget this (and please feel free to remind me when I’m going off the deep end) – Your best IS good enough!!



A Labor of Love – Happy First Birthday Princess!!


BLOG REWIND! My official due date is tomorrow, and as we await baby sister’s arrival, I can’t help but reflect on the special way my precious firstborn entered this world. Boy, time flies! Read on for her labor story! :)

Originally posted on Life of a Minister Mom:

My Dearest Alexandra,

I find it impossible to believe that this day has come, yet here we are.  It’s your first birthday, and you’ve added more to my existence in the past 12 months, then what I thought was possible to gain in a lifetime.  I love you more than words can express, but I wanted to tell you about the day you entered this world.  The day you changed your daddy and I forever…

It was Sunday, March 11th, and I woke up with a feeling of peace and contentment.  According to the doctor, you weren’t due for another 10 days or so, but we’d arrived at a different arrangement.  I’d been a few centimeters dilated for about 2 and a half weeks, and I knew you’d be making an early entrance.  Your godbrother’s 1st birthday party was the day before, and once we made it through that day (a…

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Monday Motivation: (Im)Patiently Waiting


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Waiting can be hard sometimes.  Far too often our flesh wants what it wants right now, and when we don’t get it we must fight off those feelings of anxiety, impatience, and even disappointment. Being just two days shy of my due date, I know these feelings all too well.  For the last several days I’ve wondered if it will be the day, but I have to be careful not to allow discontentment to creep in.  Just as I take heart in knowing that no one stays pregnant forever ;), we must also remain confident that the Lord won’t ever leave us hanging!  There is a plan and purpose in His timing, and when we completely trust in Him it is always worth the wait!!!

Psalm 46:10(a)

Be still, and know that I am God;

Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NKJV)

The end of a thing is better than its beginning;
The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.

Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV)

But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

Romans 8:24-25 (NKJV)

For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? 25 But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with perseverance.

James 5:7-8 (NKJV)

Therefore be patient, brethren, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, waiting patiently for it until it receives the early and latter rain. You also be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand.

Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.