Grace For the Guilty Mom


I’m sharing a guest piece on mom guilt over at Mom of 11 Kids today! 

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I still remember that day vividly. It was a couple months ago and I was packing for a work conference and feeling stressed. You, like mommy, woke up a ‘grumpadump’ as we like to call it, and nothing, I mean nothing would please you. Finally I hit my limit, and the next time you whined I let out a roar. A crazy, loud, harsh, and devastating roar. You burst into tears because mommy had lost it, and I burst into tears because in that moment I had failed you as parent. The rest of the day I was silent, reflective, and wracked with guilt. The following day the guilt lingered, and on to the next day and for days and weeks to come. By this time the guilt had shifted away from that particular incident, and onto a myriad of other moments of my perceived failure.

I’ve been guilty of letting you watch too much T.V. Then there was that time I forgot to give you a vegetable at dinner. I wasn’t really paying attention to the last story you told me, and the other night I really, really needed a break from you or your sissy touching me. I know you can hear the impatience in my voice too often, and I never feel like I spend enough quality time with you.

The list goes on and on, and it seems the aches and pains of mom guilt never subside. The day-to-day regrets cloud our minds, and the ‘shoulda woulda coulda’s’ begin to loom larger than the ‘happily present and in the moment’ thoughts. Mom guilt has a way of seeping into every crevice of our parenting decisions, but the truth ladies, is that it’s time to revisit the Frozen soundtrack and make the decision to….

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I Confess…I’m Angry That You Left Me


6 years.

It’s been 6 years since I touched your skin or gazed upon your face. A face I’ve known from birth and one I can no longer see in real time. 

It’s been 6 years since you left, and while I can’t blame you for being ready to reside in your true heavenly home, sometimes I’m simply that little girl who misses her dad and I wish you were here with me.

I’m being selfish, I know, but did you really have to go? Could you have fought a little harder? Did I do all I could? Did I spend enough time with you or pray enough prayers? Didn’t you want to walk me down that aisle or hold your grand babies for the first time?

Oh daddy, I know you held on for as long as you could, but it wasn’t long enough! You did your best, I know you did, and my prayers were answered. You accepted Christ as Lord and Savior weeks before you died, and as you left your earthly body you attained a full and complete healing from the cancer that ate away at your flesh. I know that you are rejoicing at the Father’s throne and that we’ll meet again, but sometimes I get mad.

I get angry that I can’t pick up the phone and call you, because you were always the one who understood. I can’t believe I don’t have a recording of your laugh or your voice and I’m angry you didn’t think of that before you left. I’m mad that I can’t go Christmas shopping with you and I’m outraged that I can’t give you a hug. Every year around this time it hits me in such a different way, but this, I think is overdue.

It hurts but I have to confess…I’m angry that you left me.

I’m furious, really, but it’s only because I love you so much and miss you like crazy. I’m angry because I want you back, but the truth is, you are exactly where you need to be, and I will get there one day too.

For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. Philippians 1:21 (ESV)

I miss you daddy, today and always, and I love you so much.




Great is His Love For You

For the past 3 months I’ve been a weekly writer for Daughter of Delight. As my term comes to an end with this devotional about God’s awesome love, I realize what a dream and blessing this has been for me to share such truth in this capacity, exhorting and prayerfully encouraging others along the way. Please visit this ministry if you haven’t already, and thank you for taking the time to read what God has laid on my heart.🙏🏾💙🙌🏾




He loves you so much, and created you as a unique person with so many wonderful gifts and talents. On your birthday and every day, may you remember how precious you are in His eyes.”

I turned another year older yesterday, and these words, printed on a pretty card I received from a sweet friend, were a beautiful reminder of God’s love for you and I. We are His creation, and from day one He sent His son for us, guided us, and loved us with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3).

You are absolutely stunning in His eyes, and He embraces every facet of your being. Your crooked teeth, freckled face, pale skin, dark skin, button nose, big eyes, thin lips, curvy body or narrow waist, are intricately placed, and make you fabulously you. You are intelligent and witty, thoughtful and caring, and full of promise and dreams…

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Small Shop Spotlight: Follow Your Arrow Clothing

I’m excited for today’s Small Shop Spotlight, featuring Follow Your Arrow Clothing! This shop features handmade tees for you and your little ones, and I couldn’t wait to have this Q & A with its owner.

1. Tell me a little bit about yourself (family, interests, hobbies, etc).

Hey everyone!! I am Katie, owner of follow your arrow clothing.


Photo courtesy of Katie, owner of Follow Your Arrow Clothing

I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have 2 wonderful kids who keep us so busy. When we aren’t at soccer, baseball or basketball games we love family movie night!

2. When did you open your shop and how has the experience been so far?

I opened my etsy shop in July of this year. It took months of preparation and getting it ready but I officially opened the shop in July and its been a wonderful 5 months!

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3. Is there a special meaning or significance behind your shop’s name?

Follow your arrow is one of my favorite sayings… it means follow your path, follow the direction you are meant to go. I knew this is what I was meant to do. I love being creative and designing the shirts. I am so excited right now with the holidays coming up and making all the holiday tees!

4. Do you have a favorite design? If so, what makes it so special to you?

I don’t have a favorite design but my most popular would be my on saturdays we tailgate! I am very excited about my holiday tees though. I would say those are my favorite right now. I love the holidays!

5. What’s your favorite part about being a small shop owner?

What I love about being a small shop owner is how I do everything myself. I design and make each shirt myself. I package and wrap each and write a thank you note! When you shop small you are supporting a family.

6. What is one piece of advice you’d give someone who is looking to start their own business?

My best advice to anyone wanting to start their own business is just know you will make mistakes. I made so many when I first started but I learned what worked and what didn’t. Its all a learning experience. I also think getting advice from other shop owners has been great. I have made lots of new friends from other small business owners.

I just love supporting small businesses and getting to know the owners. Don’t you?! 😄

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and enjoy this special note from Katie.

I hope you will check out my shop and thank you Patricia for letting me be apart of your blog today! Visit me at and come check out my instagram @followyourarrowclothing



*All opinions are 100% honest and my own. I was not paid for this endorsement.*

I Confess…I Don’t Always Act Like the Wife You Deserve

To love at all is to be vulnerable. ~ C.S. Lewis

The truth can be a hard pill to swallow, especially when it’s an ugly truth that’s staring back at you from the mirror. As I kick off a new series entitled ‘I Confess’, I start things off with a letter to my husband. Marriage has taught me a number of things and I will always be learning, but nothing has been more clear than the fact that I’m a selfish, selfish sinner, saved only by His grace!


To the one who holds my heart,

You are a wonderful man, but I don’t tell you this enough. I admit that it’s easier for me to pinpoint and focus on the quirks that annoy, rather than magnify and celebrate all your wonderful ways.

I confess that I can be moody and resist the efforts you make to snap me out of it.

I confess that it’s difficult to put your needs before mine, especially when I really want my way.

I confess that I’ve used my words as weapons far too many times.

I confess I need to be more liberal with my praise and focus more on building you up.

I confess that I don’t always know how to stop and let things go.

I confess that I have a knack for making a mountain out of a mole hill. 

I confess that I have a ton of room to grow.

I confess that the list goes on and on…

Oh my darling!

I have been selfish over and over again. I have frustrated you and shown my ugly side repeatedly. I have been wrong more times than I’d like to admit, and I’ve hurt you along the way.

But let me tell you this.

You have my heart now and you always will.

You are a marvelous reflection of God’s love in my life.

You are the man I want to be by my side.

You are absolutely and unequivocally God’s best for me.

Saying yes to you was the smartest decision I’ve ever made, and being wrapped up in your arms is the best feeling in the world.

You and I will walk hand in hand in this life, sometimes failing miserably and other times getting it right, but together, with Christ, there is so much to look forward to.

Dear husband, my husband, I confess that I will never be perfect, and it won’t always be pretty, but I will never, ever stop trying to be the wife you deserve.



Our Mindset Establishes the Way We Operate

My weekly devotional for Daughter of Delight is up! Thanks for reading!!


Where is your head at today? Did you wake up feeling refreshed and thankful, or was your heart bogged down by critical thoughts before your feet even hit the floor? We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes, but it’s up to us to determine whether or not we stay in that gloomy place. We are what we think (Proverbs 23:7) and our mindset establishes the tone for the way we operate.

I often feel like my mind is racing, and when it does take a moment to finally slow down, I’m bombarded by all the the things I’ve said or done that were wrong. I could have had a fantastic day, but as I lay in the bed at night, I’ll want to zoom in on the less than perfect moments and attempt to make those greater than the good.

The truth is that even on the worst days you can find the silver lining. It’s not always grand and obvious but it’s there…

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