That Helpless Feeling…

Growing up, my mom had a very special way of making me feel better when I was sick.  She would hold me close, with her arms tightly wrapped around me, and say ”give it to mommy, give it to mommy”.  She’d repeat this over and over again, lulling me into a place of comfort and peace.  In her warm embrace I knew I’d be better soon, and even as an adult I know there’s nothing like my mother’s touch.  From that moment of conception and to this present day, she’d do whatever was necessary to take my pain away. Receiving my icky germs and contracting whatever ailment I had meant nothing to her as long as I was healthy and happy.  This kind of love was once hard to fathom, but now I completely understand.

Something wonderful happens when you become a mother.  The instantaneous love leads to the desire to nurture and protect in a way I can’t fully describe.  There’s nothing like knowing you’re the one your baby depends on to help her thrive, and this instinct was strong in me this week as my daughter battled her first real illness.  My poor little girl had tummy woes, and I felt my heart-break as she struggled to keep her food down. As she winced in discomfort, and cried for me to make her feel better, the tears streaming down her face were the perfect description of how I felt on the inside.  She was lethargic and dehydrated and it bothered me that there wasn’t an instant fix. As we approached the third day of dealing with this it was challenging for me not to feel as though I was failing her.  The feeling of helplessness tried to set in when she seemed to be inconsolable, and after running  through the gamut of possible solutions, my husband received a pitiful voicemail and text in between me putting on a brave face for her. I know I’m a good mom, but that doesn’t prevent the days and moments where I think I’m letting my sweet angel down. 🙁

But in the midst of all this there’s good news!  The reality is that I’m not a failure and never was. Nor am I helpless seeing as how I’m equipped with the Word of God, prayer, and Holy Spirit wisdom!  I continue to speak and believe in her healing, and I know that today she will wake up with smiles and a hearty appetite! The chores may go undone and we may or may not leave the house, but I’ll do whatever it takes to see her dimples, and now toothy grin, shine brightly today!! 🙂

Alexandra is God’s daughter first and foremost, and as much as I love her there’s nothing He won’t and can’t do!!  I can’t think of anything more comforting than that, so instead of beating myself up I will put my trust in the Lord and continue to give Him thanks!

Psalm 136:26 (AMP)
 O give thanks to the God of heaven, for His mercy and loving-kindness endure forever!
How do you react when your children are sick?  Do you trust God for their full and complete healing?

Monday Motivation: How Do You See Yourself?

This one’s been circulating for some time, but it’s an important reminder. See yourself as God sees you and know that you are valued!!

1 Peter 2:9-10 (NKJV) But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;  10 who once were not a people but are now the people of God, who had not obtained mercy but now have obtained mercy.

Psalm 139:13-16 (NKJV) For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.

Ephesians 1:3-6 (NKJV) 3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, 4 just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, 5 having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, 6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved.

1 John 3:1a (NKJV) Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!

Genesis 1:27 (NKJV) So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

Be blessed in the Lord!! 🙂

Related Post: You Are Valued by Reality of Christ

The Safety of the Lord

I want to take a moment to thank the Lord for His grace, mercy and protection! 

Early this morning my husband and I heard some unfamiliar sounds coming from outside.  One thump.  Did something fall over?  A second thud, louder and distinct.  Is that a car door slamming?  No it can’t be…I called for him to come from the other room (he was giving our baby a bottle), and he said the noise was coming from below us.  Looking out the window yielded no views, so he went out on our porch and saw an individual attempting to break into our neighbor’s car.  He yelled for them to stop and the culprit fled. 

If you’ve had the misfortune of experiencing this type of situation, you’re all too familiar with the feelings of uneasiness and discomfort that follow.  A slew of negative “what if” questions attempt to flood your mind, and you’re unsettled because it happened too close to home.  I felt these emotions just moments ago, but I thank God that His Word reigns supreme in my heart!  As my husband alerted the neighbors and talked to the police, I said a prayer of thanksgiving for keeping us out of harms way.  Yes, a window was damaged, but no one was hurt, and for that I give all the glory, honor and praise to my Abba Father.  We are in His safety!!  Hallelujah!!!

Psalm 121:7 (NLT) The LORD keeps you from all harm and watches over your life.

Psalm 32:7 (KJV) You are my hiding place; you shall preserve me from trouble; you shall surround
me about with songs of deliverance. Selah.

Psalm 5:12 (NKJV) For You, O Lord, will bless the righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield.

Psalm 91 (NKJV) He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.”

3 Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowlerAnd from the perilous pestilence. 4 He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. 5 You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, 6 Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday.

7 A thousand may fall at your side, And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you. 8 Only with your eyes shall you look, And see the reward of the wicked.

9 Because you have made the Lord, who is my refuge, Even the Most High, your dwelling place, 10 No evil shall befall you, Nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; 11 For He shall give His angels charge over you, To keep you in all your ways. 12 In their hands they shall bear you up, Lest you dash your foot against a stone. 13 You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot.

14 “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name. 15 He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. 16 With long life I will satisfy him, And show him My salvation.”

Anger Management

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

There are several tell-tale signs that help us identify a person who is angry. It may be expressed with a furrowed brow, clenched teeth, balled up fists, bulging veins, a tightened jaw, streams of tears, harsh words, the silent treatment, or the cold shoulder. Yesterday I had an angry day, and it was evident in my semi-permanent scowl. No one did anything to me, but I was upset with myself. We’d just returned from a terrific vacation, and I guess certain realities set in too quickly. I was tired, out of it, grumpy, and forgetful, and was basically having an off day. Not even the excitement of Alexandra’s first San Francisco Giants game could completely snap me out of my mood, and I struggled to figure out why I was so mad? A number of minor annoyances occured, but it was the realization that I’d left an important item at home that sent me spiraling over the edge. Moments before we were slated to begin our lovely family evening I completely broke down.  I called to my husband and with my body shaking and tears welling in my eyes I proceeded to tell him what a loser I was and how stupid it was of me to forget.  He assured me that everything was fine, but I preferred to beat myself up than accept his comfort.  Only seconds passed (although it felt like longer), and with several deep breaths I wiped my eyes, shrugged my shoulders and finally decided to let it all go.  I wanted to enjoy my night, but the only way to do so was to get rid of the funk and move on.  We went on to have a fantastic time, but deep down I felt like a fool.  I’d let my anger get the best of me, and a certain scripture played on repeat in my mind.

Ephesians 4:26-27 (NKJV)

 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.

This had me thinking.  What does it mean to be angry without sin? How does God feel about our anger?  Had my lack of self-control given the Enemy a foothold?  In order to answer these questions I had to first gain a clearer understanding.

The Greek word for angry is orgizō and it means “to provoke or to arouse to anger”.  Provoke  means to “stimulate or give rise to (a reaction or emotion, typically a strong or unwelcome one) in someone”. The Greek word for sin is hamartanō and literally means “to miss the mark”.  While addressing the church at Ephesus, Paul expressed that while anger is a natural human emotion it should never be a hinderance in our walk, causing us or someone else to stumble.  Ouch.  I’d definitely failed that test, and allowed my frustration to reign supreme.

As previously illustrated, anger comes in a variety of forms.  The cause for such revved up emotion may be mistreatment, suffering an injustice, a disagreement with your spouse, being on the receiving end of gossip or harsh words (new post on this issue coming soon), financial troubles, work drama, or simply having a bad day.  There are times that anger is justified, but we shouldn’t use those scenarios as an excuse to behave badly.  I behaved badly because I’d forgotten the Holy Spirit power that dwells in me.

His example is the epitome of how we should handle ourselves when faced with such challenges.  Our flesh wants that immediate reaction, but God wants us to stop, wait, and think before we speak. In Christ we are able to exhibit self-control, pray for our enemies, encourage ourselves as David did, and overcome evil with good.   Being in Christ means we don’t allow circumstances to affect the principles of Godly living, and remaining consistent in our faith walk is a testament to our growth in Him. Feeling anger is not a crime, but it’s imperative that we think twice before expressing it in a detrimental way. Whether you’re prone to outbursts of wrath or holding it in until it bubbles over like a volcanic eruption, anger is an emotion that must be controlled lest it leads to undesired consequences.  Look to the Lord for your answers. 

Some additional verses to contemplate:

Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV) A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

Psalm 103:8(NKJV)  The Lord is merciful and gracious, Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.

Ephesians 4:31 (NKJV)  Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.

Psalm 4:4-5 (NKJV) Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah Offer the sacrifices of righteousness, And put your trust in the Lord.

Proverbs 14:17 (NKJV) A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 (NKJV) Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools.

Do you cope well with anger or let it consume you?  How do you exhibit self-control?

Related Article:

Dealing with Anger…God’s Way by Joyce Meyer